What happened in the article I am going to post below is the exact reason why some military wives piss me off. I realize having common sense is not specific only to military spouses but this is the sector of people I am referring to right now.
A few days ago two soldiers lost their lives in the midst of violent protest that broke out in Afghanistan.
Needless to say the wife of one of the brave was notified in a less then proper way. She found out that the love of her live had been killed not by casualty notification officers but by *GASP* a text message!
Why did she find out via a text message?
Warning: I am about to be extremely blunt so forgive my wording.
She found out this way because some big mouthed spouse thought it was smart to post it on their Facebook wall. Now in all fairness the spouse probably was just giving her condolences and thought a post on Facebook would be the proper way to do it. That being said what in the hell would possess you to do that when you haven’t seen anything on the news nor were you sure that the family of the fallen knew? This may not sound as if it totally applies to OPSEC but it’s still not the smartest thing to do and most times is against the rules to post before the family has been properly notified.
I’ve seen this all to many times , not so much in the case of death but with unit info and spouses who just have to make it known that they know something before everyone else so they blab and place it on Facebook like homecoming dates. I do remember the one incident in my husband’s last unit when he was deployed where a wife actually found out via Facebook that her husband had been killed. The wife (who posted on her FB page) was part of the FRG and had found out what happened before others. Again against her better common sense she went to the wife of the fallen soldier’s page and posted that she was sorry for her loss and asked if there was anything she could do. The problem was the wife had not been notified because the unit was still in the mist of doing that.
I mean isn’t this like OPSEC or better yet common sense 101?
The husband (soldier) of the wife got into trouble because they thought that he had told his wife . Naturally that was the first thing they assumed, although it wasn’t the case. In addition everyone suffered because we winded up being in black out much longer then we had to be . This meant other soldiers and their families couldn’t communicate all thanks to one wife .
Regardless of how well you know someone and how much you want to give your condolences, save them the pain of finding out anything horrible in a less then unpleasant way. Never place any information relating to deployment dates, redeployment dates, or mentions of troops KIA if you are unsure that the family has been made aware.
“Loose Lips Sink Ships…Keep Your Mouth Shut”! Respect OPSEC!
A great resource called “Social Media Guide for Military Families” was put out by Blue Star Families.
You can view it here.
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