I always thought my husband had pretty easy deployments and never experienced any major violent or life threatening encounters.
Recently it came up in one of our everyday conversations that my husband had in fact had a two very dangerous encounters on his first deployment that he never told me about. At first I didn’t take it personally I mean I know better then many people that our soldiers tend to hold back on this stuff to prevent us from worrying and also because they may not want to think about it or relive it.
All that aside as I started to think about it I guess it bothered me a tad bit. It doesn’t have anything to do with trust issues, I mean who am I to get mad because my hubby doesn’t want me to worry. I think I more got (a tad bit) upset because I think about things very literally.
This is what I was thinking:
“You mean there was a day (or night) that I was laying in bed or out shopping or laughing at the tv and at that very same moment you were getting shot at(exact details weren’t give but I’m assuming) and could have gotten killed ? The thought makes me sick, that at the same time I was experiencing happiness and lounging in our home you were experiencing fear and possible harm.”
It’s so funny when you think you tell each other everything yet some secrets remain but because you understand the reasoning behind not being told you except that as long as there are deployments, there will be …deployment secrets!
Do you prefer your spouse tell you the bad things they encountered during a deployment or would you rather not know?
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