For military spouses, enduring a loved one’s deployment is an all too familiar challenge. The mission to keep things running smoothly at home is never simple, but help from other military spouses who’ve been there before makes it easier to stay positive and weather the inevitable storms. At TroopSwap and Troop ID, our sales force is composed of military spouses and veterans sourcing military discounts all around the country. We asked proud Army wife and TroopSwap Director of Community Outreach Jessica Davis for her strategies to keep it together when a loved one is deployed. Jessica’s husband last deployed for 15 months while he was still in the infantry. Here are her 5 best tips:
1. Put your big girl panties on. Seriously. You should not have to ask for help to enroll your kids in school or pay your bills. If you do not know how to do these things, find out before your husband leaves and you completely fall apart over simple life tasks.
2. Keep busy and active. It’s easy to hole yourself up in the house while your husband is away, but it’s very important for you, and your kids if you have them, to get out and stay occupied. Whether it’s a new yoga practice, fun hobby, or back to work, find something to invest yourself in while he’s deployed. Life doesn’t stop because a spouse is away, get out and have enriching experiences on your own!
3. Repeat to yourself over and over “No news is good news.” For those of us who had husbands on FOBs in the middle of nowhere and didn’t hear from them for weeks, this was very, very helpful. And, if you do get to Skype with your soldier all the time, don’t brag about it to those wives who are waiting to hear news!
4. Make sure you have a good girlfriend to break down to, because it will happen at least once. If that girlfriend is another military spouse, even better. I met one of my very dear friends when our husbands were going out on patrols together in Iraq. Her support helped me get through that deployment! And this one may be the most important tip: when you do break down, do not do it in front of your soldier! The last thing anyone needs is for him to be distracted on the battlefield. Also, it’s nice if you don’t do it in front of your children!
5. One final requirement to surviving deployment is a good sense of humor (and a stash of good wine!). To be married to a military member—and stay married—requires that you’re flexible and can roll with the changes. For military spouses,things change fast and often, and it’s absolutely essential that you remain positive and willing to look at the bright side.
What are your best tips to keep calm & carry on during deployments?
Jessica Davis is a proud Army wife and mother of two girls, aged 4 and 10. She has been Household 6 through one 6-month and one 15-month deployment when her husband served in Iraq. Jessica serves at TroopSwap’s Director of Community Outreach for the North Carolina market.
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