Disclaimer: Before I even share my opinion on this story I really want to say let’s not fall into the trap of separating NG from AD. I seen spouse one ask an apology for Active Duty wives as if National Guard wives are the only ones who do some dingbat-ish things or are that much different! I feel I can speak from both sides my husband was AD and now NG and I as a wife lived both sides of the life. At the end of the day whether AD or NG they all risk their lives. So let’s not start dividing each other!
A reader posted a link on my wall to a news story about a National Guardsman’s wife who is demanding answers as to why her husband was denied leave.
At first glance of the story I automatically sympathized with her as I know the feeling of having R&R times changed and not being able to make plans because of this little interruption known as a “deployment”.
Yet as I read the article and watched the video in it’s entirety I couldn’t help but to say what I knew many other military spouses were going to say once I posted the article.
“Get over it your not the only one”!
The truth is this is the military life whether your husband is a National Guardsman or Active Duty deployments are the same and when it comes to the military calling the shots we are all affected by it. I don’t intend to pounce on her simply because I think their is a lack of understanding as to how the military life works which is understandable as this is probably her first deployment and she might not have the support system that comes along with the Active Duty lifestyle as a National Guardman’s wife. Yet I do think she should realize that her husband probably was denied leave because his tour is a short one. She is not the only one… this is happening Army wide.
Quite frankly it seems as if she has more of an issue with him being deployed then just the whole “denied leave” scenario. My husband was deployed for 15 months the first time and yes my kids wanted their daddy too and I sympathize with all military children, but unfortunately this is the choice we as a family/parents make when one makes the commitment to serve.
She mentions planning things well my dear if I had a dollar for every time I planned something and that heffa known as the Army interrupted I would be a rich ____…you know the rest!
I believe she should have gotten a better understanding and not have been so quick to call the media in regards to something about leave time and deployments as you never know what kind of hot water you can get your soldier into when you are quick to jump the gun and run to the news.
I suggest next time seeking out support groups for military spouses online who may be in your situation and may have been able to support you and offer encouragement for getting through this hard time.
Do you agree with her actions ? Why or Why not?
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