In today’s busy world, life pulls each of us in several different directions. Many times, it feels almost impossible to start and finish something, fulfill commitments, and have time to breathe at the end of the day. The things we do complete often times just don’t have that sense of quality to it and leaves us feeling exhausted. How do we overcome this, deal with this, or even get through the day? We do this by cutting back and realizing that quality is better than quantity. Yes, this is easier said than done, but it can be done! Here are three areas that are great starting points.
Time With Our Spouse
Being a military spouse, we have to make time count. Between deployments, training, and other things that come our way, we don’t have the luxury of spending every evening, weekend, or year with our spouse. Rather than pondering on the time apart and becoming frustrated, let’s make the time we DO have together really count. Let go of the little things and enjoy each other, take a trip, or make a romantic dinner together. The possibilities are endless but the key is to have quality time. If you find yourself in the position of having your spouse home for a good amount of time, realize it is OK to take time for yourself, as you do not need to spend every minute together. Please don’t feel guilty about this because you actually NEED to take time for yourself. Do whatever it is that you find relaxing. This could be watching a movie with a friend, getting a massage, going to the gym, meditating, reading, or even just going to the grocery store alone. By recharging your own battery and having some “you” time, you might find that this makes quality time with your spouse more enjoyable than before.
Number of Friends
We all need friends and we should all have friends. What we do not need and should not have are 20 people that we call “friends” when they are nothing more than leeches that suck the life out of us and bring us down. If you find yourself dreading to talk, text, or hang out with a friend, or if they bring too much drama to your life and disregard your feelings, it is time to cut that person out of your life – you have better things to do with your time. A worthwhile friend is someone that you enjoy spending time with and it is a give and take relationship. When they need help or support, you offer it and vice versa. The quality of a few friends is much more valuable than the quantity of less than stellar friends that take up your time.
As if everyday life wasn’t hectic enough, your kid’s classroom is asking you to make cupcakes, you are asked if you can volunteer for a fundraiser, and your boss just asked if you can work late – you know how it goes. What is one to do? Learn how to say NO. This takes practice and can be hard, but you are only one person and can only do so much. Think of it this way, would you rather take on a couple extra things and be successful with those? Or, would you rather take on 10 things that you don’t have time for and half way complete it? We all have limitations but by doing just a few, it can deliver quality results.
Angelique is a proud Army wife and happily married to her husband, Ray. After being PCS’ed from one side of the country to the other, Ft. Bragg, NC, is currently home. She has a degree in Counseling and a career background in Corporate Human Resources. She is an advocate for animal rights and enjoys supporting military and environmental causes. She is an accomplished flute player of 23 years and in her spare time she enjoys crafting, decorating, genealogy, travelling, watching horrible B rated movies, and is obsessed with anything pertaining to Disney. She and Ray are the proud pet parents of two dogs, Maddie and Ringo.
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