***As a safety precaution, if you find yourself in an abusive situation it is recommended that you read this article in your browser’s Incognito Mode or delete history after reading. Additionally, consider pre-programming the Helpline number in your phone under a different name. ***

No one marries with the intention of divorce. Yet sometimes, through the veil of youth, innocence, love, naivety or fear, we marry someone who is not only wrong for us but also is a danger to our well-being.

We don’t always see it — sometimes problems develop throughout the relationship, or perhaps it was always there and was initially kept hidden.

We want you to know that you are not alone and that you have options.

Military and Domestic Abuse

It is a fact — military life is stressful. The job itself can bring about dangerous situations, stress, times of family separation and PTSD. It is a fact that many service members return home from deployment and are changed by what they have experienced. Although an adjustment period is to be expected, violence and abuse towards you or your children are not.

Here are some eye-opening statistics on abuse in military relationships, courtesy of domesticshelters.org:

  • Male combat veterans with PTSD are 2 to 3 times more likely to abuse their female counterparts than veterans not suffering PTSD.
  • Nine out of ten combat veterans with PTSD admitted to being psychologically aggressive with their partner in the past year.

Keep in mind that abuse is a victim-reported crime, and most of it goes unreported.

Understand The Risk

If you find yourself in a similar situation — no matter the root cause — it is important to know that your safety and the safety of your children is paramount. If you are unsure where to start:

Victim Advocacy: How To Get Help

If you find yourself in an abusive situation, please reach out for help. Here are some vital resources:

Special Thanks

I’d like to give thanks to the former milspouse who escaped her abusive marriage and inspired this article. She found the strength and courage to do it — using some of the resources above — and so can you. I wish her the gifts of freedom, happiness, and healing as she continues on her newfound path.

Comments

comments

Powered by Facebook Comments

A self-described “Jackie of All Trades,” Army wife Jackie Toops enjoys exploring the various facets of her personality by chronicling military life, world travels, family, her love of the arts and more. Her academic background is in the fields of Interdisciplinary Humanities, Museum Studies and Nonprofit Management, and she has overseen public relations for museums, galleries and universities. Jackie’s articles have been featured on Army Wife 101, Wall Street International Magazine, SoFluential, HomeAway, Military Biz Connection and FamiliesGo. While stationed in Germany, she regularly discussed her articles on-air with the Armed Forces Network in Wiesbaden. A mother of two, Jackie enjoys coffee, freelance writing, languages and discovering new ways to express herself. Follow her on Facebook and Twitter.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published.

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.