Krystel is the mom of two and an Army Wife. In addition to Army Wife 101 she is the Co-Founder of SoFluential.com a digital media agency that connects brands with the military market.
She has appeared on MSNBC ,FOX LA and formerly was a weekly contributor to HLN's "Raising America". She has written for various outlets including Sheknows and Lifetime and is a big fan of cupcakes and french fries.
Bravo! Excellent commentary. Very well put, and you speak the truth. I believe that another component to looking good is FEELING good inside and out. That’s why I am such a huge proponent of exercise. Not only does a consistent exercise program make you “look” good, but, more importantly, it makes you “feel” good. And, for those days when you have to “throw on anything,” you an still rock that outfit too because you FEEL good. In addition to adopting a consistent exercise program (the exercise program could be anything from going for a walk to dancing around your house) eating healthier most days of the week will also make you feel good and look better as well. Thanks again…Great job.
I sooooooooo agree with you about the way you look. Im a mother of three a 19,8 and 1. Yes you read this correct one…lololol but back to what you said I have been a military wife for almost 15 yrs. and you are saying everything I have been saying all the time.To me yes you have your bad days BUT even on bad days I cannot have my pj on till midnight no way. Im a Latina and the way I was brought up even to go to the corrner store you had to take off your rolleres (never had them) and put on your best bc you represent yourself and your partner.I get up every am make bk and make myself up even if im not going anywhere why bc I want to have my man looking at ME and not others..and I feel good about myself even on those crapy days…lolololol..Thanks for saying what I have been thinking all this time..good work and keep it up..
First of all it’s funny that someone that looks like that is giving out advice on how to “Look there Best”–you should have used “their”, maybe if you brushed up on your grammar instead of worrying about what other people look like you would have known that. Get a life!
I am so on the same page with you!!! I’m a fairly new Army wife and that was one of the first things I noticed about some of the other wives. I too have bummy days but I personally feel that you should take some pride in yourself and your husband, when you venture out in public. You don’t have to be dressed to the “nines” but presentable. I’m glad you posted this and that I’m not alone in my opinion..
I agree with this so much! Thank you thank you!! I think the art of looking nice has really been smooshed by feminism and people who don’t care.
I agree 100%. I could expound for hours on this topic, but I am going to just leave it as an agreement.
Way to go. Her at Ft. Stewart they have a dress code policy now. You can not go in the PX or any where else looking a hot mess. I was raised you should not go out in your pjs, rollers in your hair, house shoes (slippers) or a scarf tied around your head looking like you just got out of the bed. My mother instilled in her daughters that when you leave your house you should look your best and be presentable because you never know who you will run into or what will happen when you have on you underwear with holes in them or no bra on. I always tell my daughter what my mom still tell me to this day. Big ups to you. You nailed it.
I meant to say here at Fort Stewart, sorry about the typo.
Thanks everyone for your opinions and sharing your thoughts, even the not so friendly opinions lol.
Kim you must be one of the ladies I was talking about in my video :)
Don’t be mad it’s ok look your best!
I TOTALLY agree with your video. An ADULT should know better! Wash your face, comb your hair, wash your azz and iron your clothes. If you are offended by the video you must be one of the ones that skip most of the above.
Awesome video, you are so right. Everyone should do try and look there best. I’ve been married to my husband for 4 years and still try to look good for him, and I will hopefully continue this for many more years! Looking my best makes me feel good as well, and then my attitude is improved! It’s hard for some people to hear the truth!
I just want to say first of all that what Kim said above is VERY immature…and I agree that she must be one of “those” u were speaking about!! Now my comment about the video…I AGREE 100% with EVERYTHING u said…but I also wanted to extend on the subject…there is a limit to it as well…when u see someone taking hours to get ready just to go to the gym of all places, and putting on tons of makeup and hairspray as if they were going out on the town….that’s taking it tooo far..lol However, for everyday purposes…abolutely look your best…your appearance plays a HUGE role in how someone percieves u…and just like it was stated in the video..you never know who is watching!!! I REFUSE to go outside without at least brushing my hair and being decent..I WON’T do it!! Now, I just wanted to express a personal standpoint on here that’s deeply related to this subject..Before kids when my husband first met me, I was always giving myself pedicures, doing my hair, makeup, dressing nice, staying in shape..the whole 9 pretty much….after I had our daughter things started changing…but def. after I had our son…I could tell that my husband wasn’t exactly feeling “the vibe” from me like he used to. I took the initiative once he deployed and I bust my butt working out and I am happy to say I am back to my pre-kids weight and size, I am back on track with doing my personal upkeep and I “FEEL” better inside and out!!! I hid my progress from my hubby for the longest..but had a slip up on skype one day and he saw me and I could tell that just by the look on his face and the way he was looking at me…I got my hubby back…emotionally….He never said he wasn’t still “in to me” but I could sense it, I am glad that I was mature enough to admit it to myself and take the right steps to prevent things from geting worse…I agree looks aren’t what’s important in a relationship…but u can’t continue lying to yourself saying that it doesn’t matter to your spouse…because although he may not admit it…it does !!! Thanks for all u do, and I love your blog!!!!
Dana you are awesome and congrats on your success! I couldn’t have worded it any better then that. Hell you just motivated me :D!!!!!!
I am glad you took the time to watch the ENTIRE video which is something a few people tend not to do and then make assumptions. Like you and others on here have said the truth is hard to hear.
So appreciative and glad that you are here and I hope you continue to visit!!!
I agree 100%!!! When this video first started out I started laughing and thought to myself, “She should of put HEY SARAH..NO MORE PJ PANTS”. haha! So okay, quick background, I’m a new army wife(6 months) and my husband just deployed on Sunday, so lets just say I’ve rocked the PJ pants a day or 2.. or 3 too much this week :) Hahah, but I totally agree with everything you said, for all people in general! Whats that saying, dress for success?? You never know who your going to see out, like you said! I am a nurse and I’m always afraid I’ll see my a patient out in public and they’ll think like “whoa, what happened to her?”
Anyways, thanks for the great videos, and thanks for having such a great website! I feel like I need all the help/support I can get and its always great to find people who understand!!!
I really want to thank you for making this video. I’ve always been one of those women who put makeup on and did my hair even if I just had to run to the store for a quick minute, but then I had my daughter and became a single mom and did it less… and then I got married and apparently stopped looking in a freakin mirror in the morning!
While watching your video I was trying to remember the last time I put on makeup, and it was about a month ago. A MONTH. I became a “hop out of the shower and put my hair in a ponytail” girl.
So that’s why I’m thanking you. Your video was a bit of a wakeup call for me, and has inspired me to make a change. Before leaving this comment I called and made an appointment to get my hair and nails done next week, and I’m most definitely going to be making a more concerted effort to pretty-up for my husband. He leaves on deployment soon and my goal is to have him leave and remember me looking like the pretty chick he married, and not the homeless squatter that he’s been living with lately!
So thanks, sincerely. And I’m sure he thanks you too!! :)
What SHE said. =)
People have just gotten so lazy, What’s it take to throw on a pair of jeans? Wear that t-shirt, girl.. but put some freaking pants on! &I think natural beauty is just a wonderful thing… but take 5 minutes to at least brush those teeth & splash some cold water on your face. As for myself? I’ve always been a girly girl. So, no matter what, I at least apply mascara & lip gloss. Takes 2 minutes, makes me feel so much more with it & I feel better by the fact that I at least spent a few minutes on myself. &I’m a mommy! No more excuses, ladies. =)
I agree with this – not just for military spouses, but for everyone. I have my sweats and pj days, too. But it’s become a big trend where we’re at. Go to Walmart or wherever, and there’s so many people walking around looking like they just rolled out of bed. I’ve even seen ladies shuffling around in house slippers! If I’m just at home working or taking care of the house and puppy, I do rock pj pants, warm-up pants, or lounge pants, but they’re in good shape, with matching or coordinating t-shirts, and sneekers. Now, my husband claims he doesn’t mind if I’m relaxed in my style, and he’s always been tolerant of my mostly-black and edgy fashion sense anyway, but I still try to look presentable for him. Like my grandmother used to always tell my mom when she was a girl: “When you get married, you have to make sure you keep up your appearance for your husband. Make sure you brush your hair, put on a clean apron, and dab on some lipstick before your husband gets home!” Kind of “old school”, I know, but the concept is still current, I think. Thanks for the video!
I just wanted to say that your video has really inspired me. I will admit that I am/was one of those women that when my husband deployed I didn’t do much with myself. Sad thing is I have a closet full of really nice designer clothing and shoes yet I wear the same outfits all the time. Frumpy sweats, t-shirts and sweaters. Since I don’t work, don’t have kids and don’t really go out I started to tell myself there is no need to look my best since I don’t have anyone to look good for. Lately I started noticing that my husband has been looking at me differently via skype. He looked at me like “we’re just friends” and it hurt. After watching this video and reading the comments, I am now convinced that it is important not only to myself but to my husband to look my best. I don’t want to lose him because I “let myself go”. Thank you for the wake up call.