Latest Update: The spouse in question’s husband’s UNIT has issued an apology…View it HERE.
Update: The author of the blog post mentioned has removed her blog in it’s entirety.
Last night while surfing Facebook at almost 1am in the morning , I came across several posts from military spouses who were disturbed by a blog post from a Vermont Army Wife who suggested that National Guard Wives are not Real Army Wives. The post has since been removed.
I don’t want to come off as a hypocrite because I am all about free speech and speaking as you wish, I mean hell it’s her blog. That being said one thing I cannot stand is sheer stupidity and ignorance, especially from a new (yes I’m calling it out because she is new to this life) military wife who is giving off the impression that she knows it all.
What She Said
In a nutshell according to a rebuttal blog post written by her husband, this Army Wife was fed up with people mistaking her husband for being in the National Guard. According to her husband most people don’t know that it bothers Active Duty soldiers to be compared to the National Guard…funny my husband says he missed that memo . They are mad that everyone assumes they are active duty military because her husband it appears works at a National Guard post.
In addition although she lives in Vermont and it seems she herself doesn’t have everyday contact with military spouses she presumes to say that National Guard spouses aren’t Army Wives. The killer statement was when she wrote her list of things”National Guard spouses say” of which one was: “Well my husband has PTSD”. She proceeds to say and I quote”
“I’m so proud to say that the Hubs has been through 2 deployments, and his mind is as solid as a rock. What Guard spouses seem to not realize, is that A LOT of other people, who have nothing to do with the military, have PTSD. It’s a horrible, horrible thing to deal with, and I would never wish it on anybody, but just because he has PTSD, doesn’t automatically file him in the ‘soldier’ category”.
I mean are you completely insane? How do you even find anything right about this statement? I honestly don’t know what to say because some statements are so bold that you don’t even know how to reply! You have no idea how much you just disrespected anyone who wears or has worn the uniform and suffers from this horrible disease.
Oh oh and don’t forget her Step-ford Wife Statement as quoted below:
“Respect the higher ranks. When I met my husband’s 1SG, I made sure to put my best foot forward. I put on a nice outfit, did my hair, and put makeup on my face. Used manners; ma’am, sir, please, and thank you. I sat quietly and spoke only when addressed. If I had a question, I waited for a break in the conversation, and said ‘Excuse me.’ It’s simple really. I see none of this when Vermont Guard spouses get together for an event with their spouses”.
First of all the majority of us (or at least the spouses I know) rarely if ever come in contact with our husband’s First Sgt. Secondly since when do I have to speak only when spoken to ? I mean who are you trying to be Claudia Joy from “Army Wives”?
There is so much more I could point out but I don’t want to come off as just picking because then my message will most likely be missed. Quite honestly I am not sure if I even have a message to this woman or if I just needed to ask if she is serious, or was her post doing exactly what the title said “Stirring the Pot”?
My Thoughts
First and foremost alot of people are saying well we have jumped on her enough and so on. Many feel that jumping on her perpetuates the attacking stigma that some think are attached to military wives. In my case I am not attacking her , but what I am doing is giving her a good dose of the TRUTH!
The truth is honey whether you like it or not , you are no more special then the next military spouse. Speaking of which includes those National Guard Wives you mentioned because they are in fact Army Wives too. Now don’t get me wrong we are a special group of women but let’s not divide us. The fact that you even made the comment that when their husband’s get back from war they don’t have to deal with the military life makes you seem really new to this life. I guess PTSD or injuries don’t count as having to deal with anything when they come back. Sure Guard service members don’t go onpost daily and deal with some of the everyday pressures of being a soldier, but when it comes down to it they have to deploy and fight just like everyone else. They had to go through BCT and AIT like everyone else, and when they retire they receive benefits just like everyone else.
We live offpost at Fort Bragg and it’s not like we go through so much with the military life. I mean sure his job has it’s moments but otherwise life is not that much different then the average person for us except for when we are PCS’ing.
What kills me the most is did you ever realize that many of the National Guard were Active Duty before? My husband may get out and enlist in the National Guard himself, so is he less of a soldier? I mean I am assuming this his past deployments count for nothing or the fact that he proudly served in 2 branches of the United States Military?
The stickler is you don’t even live in a military town or base or even close to a main base (your words not mine) yet you are the end all be all of what a military spouse has to go through and what the proper code of Army wife conduct is? Sounds like to me if you truly tried to make friends with some of the National Guard spouses instead of turning your nose up at them , I am sure one of the Veteran Army Wives could be a great friend to you.
A real military spouse (since you feel you know it all I feel obligated to correct you for future reference) would know that real honor is knowing to never ever step out and discredit any man or woman who has so bravely made the choice to serve our country.
A real military spouse would know that the you just bit the hand of the very support system you could have (those National Guard spouses) because you have this skewed reality that somehow you and your husband are on a higher pedestal because he is Active Duty. Those spouses go through just as much if not more because they don’t always feel like they have the support of the so called” everyday” military community. When a military spouse’s husband is deployed we all go through the same feelings. Are you implying that a Reserve wife doesn’t go through the same stress and emotions when her husband is away?
Way to go for making them feel more alone then I assume they already feel!
I am here to tell you darling you are no special then anyone else, in fact when you come to an actual military base let me know so I can show you the ropes.
So I have to ask is this wife one of the few who believe this or are there other spouses who feel this way? Share your thoughts in the comment section below.
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My husband joined the National Guard in 1997, straight out of high school. Today, he still serves the Guard but as a Title 10, Active Duty career soldier. He has been Title 10 for 6 years and receives the exact same benefits than an Army soldier of his same rank receives, an E7 Sergeant First Class. We even have to PCS because as a Title 10 soldier, he works on Federal orders even though he still belongs to his home state as a Guardsman. He does not have to report for monthly weekend drills because he is not a “weekend warrior”, but he has a great respect for weekend warriors because he was one for 9 years. He is a soldier that goes in at 5 a.m. every morning before work for PT on the Active Duty post we are currently stationed at. He has fought for his country in both Operation Iraqi Freedom and Enduring Freedom. But while he was just a “National Guard weekend warrior”, he spent 6 months away from his family in 1995 to help aid the victims of Hurricane Katrina in New Orleans. There, he had to see horrible sights in his homeland, worse than he’d seen overseas. He had to pull dead babies and children from the flood waters and dodge bullets from the guns fired by looters who used the tragedy to steal and profit and shoot at the Guardsmen they believed to be a threat to their greed. How terrible is it to be shot at by the same people his government sent him and his platoon down to help? So you see, Mrs. Army Wife Know-it-all, National Guard members ARE REAL SOLDIERS! They reperesent the State they belong to and are the first to be called whenever their State or others have a crisis. The US Army is the oldest branch of the military but the Army as it originally was back when the 13 colonies fought for their freedom in the Revolutionary War, is now actually the National Guard! Yep, the exact same war that made us a country!! How can you beat that?! National Guardsmen were responsible for winning the war that paved the way to establishing this great country! Don’t believe me? Google it, educate yourself! Boy, you really put your foot in your mouth, didn’t you, lady…
Well I am not mad at her I am actually feeling sorry for her- she is obviously a “newbie” to have made such general broad statements. Any one who ever wore a uniform to serve our country in my book is entitled to the respect my husband who by the way is a E8-former 1SG- deserves. Rank plays no part in respect when a uniform is worn & a sacrifice is made no matter what branch of the military your spouse chose to join. It’s simple he/she signed up to be a part of the small 1% that said “I will go if called, I will protect HER rights to Blog anyway she wants.”. Give respect where respect is due- plain & simple.
Her comments about etiquette made me chuckle instead of see red.I just had a similar conversation with a SGM’s wife as we wait to make our decision to retire or continue on for SGM school. You must behave in a manner that is a direct reflection of your soldier- but I have never not spoken until spoken too- my poor husband wishes! But before I open my mouth I do have a little chat with myself & ask how is this going to sound? How is this going to be interpreted? Could it have a negative impact on my husband’s career? When interacting with Senior Officers or Senior NCO’s- they have earned respect so show it to them- but please never feel you can’t speak to my husband or me- I want to help new wives learn the ropes. I have the up most respect for those older, wiser wives who have been doing it longer then me. I can only hope I set as good of an example as most have set for me.
I think the reprimand her poor husband has been given is surely causing some heat at home no matter if he publicly posted his support. Slack should be given to a point- a learning curve is needed. I think she does owe the wives of her community a public apology. We can only hope that one of those wives will be in contact with her & help her learn what it means to be a real Military Spouse- you support eachother no matter what. Because you never know when one day you may be the one in need of the support.
What you said about speaking when spoken to is exactly how I feel! My husband was stationed at the Pentagon for a year and a half and I had the pleasure of meeting some high ranking Officers (a 2 star General being one of them) and NCOs. I would always talk to them, but kept in mind to be respectful. And, like you said, how would this reflect on my husband. I feel like it’s important to show that your husband married an intelligent woman who is capable of holding a decent conversation. This poor girl, she has no idea. But, since the command got involved, I’m sure she’s getting a rude of awakening
And last time I looked, National Guard ACU’s were EXACTLY the same as AD Army, not “almost exactly” and all Guard members wear the US ARMY name patch on the right side of their uniform shirt…as far as deployments go, my hubby served under Patton’s Third Army in combat and wears Patton’s trademark circle A combat patch, his NG battle buddy wears the Cavalry combat patch and our NG neighbor wears the Airborne patch…pretty impressive for just National Guard, huh?
Wow, I wish this attitude wasn’t the norm, but it kind of seems to be. My husband joined the National Guard in 2009 while we were pregnant with our second child. Right now, he is in Afghanistan and I am here by myself raising our 4 year old, 2 year old and 10 month old by myself. So, my family’s sacrifice isn’t as important as and active duty family? Last time a checked, my husband is still gone to a war zone for a year and my children are spending a year without their daddy and I’m spending a year without my husband. Wait, so how exactly is that different? Wow. . .
Well, this ruffled the feathers of NUMEROUS Veterans, Active, National Guard, and Reserve alike. There was so much I had to say, I had to post a blog entry in response. I’m glad the Recruiting Command was brought to the attention on this; they both should issue an apology for their stupidity.
PS- As a Combat Veteran and a Soldier’s wife, I refuse to state something so stupid as she did. Ugh.
Can someone please post her husband’s comments here if they have them copied? I told my husband about this last night & I planned on sending the comments to him today, but when I went back today they were gone. I would appreciate it as I would like to share with my husband. Thank you!
Here you go… just happened to have kept the window up.
“Hubs said…
This is the “Hubs”. I’m very proud of my wife for her blog. She spoke her mind about something that was bothering her. That is essentially what a blog is. What most of you don’t understand, since you are National Guard, related to one, or married to one, is that it really bothers any active duty, full time, Regular Army soldier to be compared to national guard. I am always being asked what gaurd unit I’m with. Even when I tell people I’m active duty, they still don’t get it. This isn’t anybody’s fault, it is just the ignorance of people in this area because there is no real Army base near by. The closest one is Fort Drum, NY, which is about 5 hours from Burlington. If you lived near a main post then everybody in the surrounding area would assume you were an active duty soldier working there, not a member of the guard. It is the exact opposite for those of us that are proud members of the Federal army who are stationed in this rural area. Most people do not know who we are, or what the Regular Army is about. A lot of people actually believe the National Guard is the one and only army for the U.S. This is a huge pet peeve of mine and I make sure to educate people who think this. My wife was doing the same thing by writing the blog, in a ranting kindof way. She had just had it with people calling me a guard member, and not knowing the difference. I could go blue typing on here the difference between the two, and most of you won’t get it either because all you know is the Guard. I respect the members of the Guard. Both the state of Vermont (and the other states and territories) and the Country needs citizen soldiers. There was nothing in the blog to say otherwise.
She looks great and very sexy in the uniform. She is not a soldier so she does not fall under Army Regulations. Look up recent Supreme Court rulings, as well as Federal Laws, that say wearing the uniform is a freedom of expression as long as you are not trying to impersonate a member of the military. Under Army Regulation 670-1, which governs how the Army uniform is worn, goes on to state that official uniforms (that civilians cannot wear) are “distinctive and will not be sold to or worn by unauthorized personnel:
(1) All Army headgear, when worn with insignia.
(2) Badges and tabs (identification, marksmanship, combat, and special skill).
(3) Uniform buttons (U.S. Army or Corps of Engineers).
(4) Decorations, service medals, service and training ribbons, and other awards and their appurtenances.
(5) Insignia of any design or color that the Army has adopted.” (Army Regulation 670-1, par. 1-12).
Insignia of any design or color that the Army has adopted has to do with unit patches. If you look at the Regulations, consult federal law, and look at the Supreme Court rulings concerning free speech (while wearing the uniform), you will see that my wife is perfectly within her rights to wear an ACU top and bottom and look great doing it. My wife is not a soldier. She supports the fact that I am in the military, which is not something that all soldiers can say of their spouse. Look at the picture of her, the only thing visible is the American Flag. She had that on there because she is a proud American. I am happy and proud to be married to one. She has never cheated on me, I don’t know why anybody would put something as mean as that on here, but it is slander and not appreciated. Opinons are appreciated, that is what a blog is. But going to the length of being mean and spiteful is very sad. If you are going to post, try to be an adult. At no time was this blog meant to offend anybody, regardless of military affiliation or not.
Thank you for looking at the blog. Please be respectful that this is her blog and her opinion on things.
February 8, 2012 9:48 PM”
This is how i felt when i spotted this yesterday……A member of the National Guard is a unsung hero.. they dont wear the uniform everyday so until they are deployed a lot of people never even know they are in the ARMY… So many members might only do the weekend thing but so many members are on Active Duty Orders working to keep Camp Johnson and the surrounding armories operational and if they arnt on ADOS i know so many that are active members of the Fire department, EMT, police officers, correctional officers, teachers, coaches and more. I dont knock what Active duty members due since one of our best friends has been active duty since graduation and has been deployed 4 times. he busts his ass every single day being in the army.. but what irritates me the most besides her saying that guard wives are not army wives.. Her husband is a glorified sales man hes not busting his ass like my friend does working on a base. she isnt living the live of a (in her opinion) a “real army wife”.. he goes into an office and goes around to schools to try and get kids to join the army.Hes not working his ass off on a base or in a full time job in the community. NOW i am not knocking Recruiters but dont pretend that your husband is doing the hard job because its one of the most safest jobs a soldier can have with the likely hood of being deployed slim to non as long as you are bringing in people. When tragedy happens around our state they hardly ever have to ask soldiers to come in because they are standing there ready to help anyone and everyone they can. Then she says people cannot tell the difference between active uniform or a guard uniform.. thats because there isnt a difference. army is army.. air force is air force. thats like saying they navy seals are not apart of the navy. there are multiple branches of each branch of the military. for the record… THE VERMONT ARMY NATIONAL GUARD WAS IN CHARGE OF EVERY ACTIVE DUTY ARMY MEMBER WHEN WE WERE DEPLOYED IN 2010. The GUARD was in charge of task force Long trail and every member of the army was under the command of our brigade commander and for the record i was informed when i met the brigade commander who since has been promoted to General that it is not a wifes job to refer to higher ups as sir or madam.. He along with the CSM asked me to call them by their first names after i called them sir. I am a proud Military Wife and this woman has no idea what she is talking about. Shes been Married since August and Due this month to have a baby.. She has NO Idea what is required of a soldier or his wife besides what she has read in books and seem on tv. I thank God everyday for the Soldiers around the world who protect my freedom to say what i want to say and for laying down their lives so that i can live in a free nation.. No matter the color of the uniform EVERY Soldier be is active, reserve, guard or whatever ALL SIGN THE SAME DOTTED LINE.. A BLANK CHECK WORTH THEIR OWN LIFE SO THAT WE CAN BE FREE.
Since this all went down the “Hubs” CO has issued an apology for the actions of this soldier and states that the Soldier has received a Face to Face Counciling statement.
I feel very sorry for the young lady because really I think this says more about her relationship with her husband than anything else. I think that there is a tinge of jealousy towards the “guard” wives and the intimacy that they share with their husbands. My husband has been in since 1990 and he started AD and then got out then joined the TX NG and he is now full time with them. He also drills and does his 2 weeks of AT and he has been deployed. I am a proud wife..call me a “guard” wife, “army” wife, it won’t hurt my feelings one bit. However it is unfair to our Soldiers to call them anything less than what they are heroes! I don’t care what branch you are in, whether you deploy or provide back up from your home station you are still a soldier and a hero!
Any member of any of the Reserves would be disgusted by what she wrote. I don’t understand what she was thinking when she wrote it, or what would drive her to write something like that or even think something like that. She must be new to be a military spouse, I agree. She’s probably a new wife who also thinks she’s of rank, as well. You know, the spouses who think they wear their husband’s ranks… I hope her reprimanding will teach her the lesson she needs to learn. She has no clue about the military…
So…. I’m not going to get started on this wife. As a Southern woman, a NATIONAL GUARD SOLDIER, and the WIFE OF AN ACTIVE DUTY SOLDIER, I’m going to say “bless her heart” and I pray she learns the respect that we military wives should share towards each other and our Soldiers. I could go nuts explaining the Guard side and how they have totally different stressors such as unemployment when they return that Active Duty generally dont worry with…but you see, it doesn’t matter, because we are all Soldiers, All military wives, and all in the same fight, and ON THE SAME TEAM. God bless you all and God Bless the USA!!!
Oh how I will be bashed for what I am about to say. Not that I agree with her statements, she is allowed to her opinion, as you and I are. She posted this on her blog, yes it is public, but you as the public do not have to like or agree with it. If one persons opinion makes you feel less of a “Army” spouse, then you need to look with in yourself. No I am not a newbie wife, I am an Army brat of an Officer 33 years of service, my Grandfather retired at the age of 63 as a COL and my husband is enlistented SFC 12 years as his wife, along with my brother who is making me proud serving our country in Afganistan in the Oklahoma National Guard. We seem to have gotten stuck on an issue, that in the end will not change the outcome, nor who we are as people. Why is no one talking about the Officer wife at Bragg that harrassed enlisted wifes and reduced them to tears, degraded them and possible (investigation in progress) was so vendictive she could of cost people their careers? Why are we not talking about the important topics at hand like our husbands careers that could possibly be in jepordy, our military budget, health care issues (Tricare), any thing that affects us directly as military families? We as spouse bashing someone for their opinion, throwing slanderous comments about her and toward her, make us no bettter. Be mad about her comments if you feel, but remember her comments did not and do not make you the Army spouse the you are today. We need to band together instead of bash each other, because in the end, we all depend on each other one way or another. I apologize in advance for any misspellings and grammer errors.
like you said you are not an army or a soldier. you are an army brat. i thank your family and your sacrifices you all have made however i am both a soldier and an army wife and unless you are one or the other you may not be able to feel the same things we felt that woman basically disgraced our military and disgraced all army wives and since my husband is deployed and has been gone 13 months now and missed the birth of our 2nd daughter, missed both my surgeries, his sisters wedding, his grandmothers funeral, our 3 year old asks for him to come home and hold her daily, i think me and the others have a right to feel this way and state what we feel. this woman has made herself out to be an army wife and know all the ropes and know how to be a soldier but she is actually neither i have been deployed and it was not very much fun. it was personl for me.
My reply went under jessica’s.
Hi Ashley!
I think her post riled people up plain and simple and just as she put her foot in her mouth so did some other people who were passionate that she in fact went beyond making a few snide remarks she flat out disrespected those in uniform. Alot of people are saying we should be talking about other issues, well in fact this is an issue in the mil spouse community. One that brings up the issues of whose better then who which can affect working together. As have stated before I am a military blog so it’s not uncommon that you will find me talking about these topics. In addition if you look through my posts I also talk about all the other things you mentioned. If she is ever looking for a support system believe me Army Wife 101 is here and ready to embrace her :)
“Why is no one talking about the Officer wife at Bragg that harrassed enlisted wifes and reduced them to tears, degraded them and possible (investigation in progress) was so vendictive she could of cost people their careers?”
From what I saw / read there was A LOT of talk and comments about that very subject, just not from what I’ve read on this page since it is a different story.
As an Army wife, I was blown away by her post. I unfortunately(or maybe thankfully) only got to see the “new” version after the backlash. My husband is an AGR recruiter. He spent 7 years(joined as a JR in HS) in the Reserves(3 deployments). We took the assignment for recruiting just over 4 years ago and PCS this week. I can say we have experienced others who feel that the Reserves/Guard are not “equal.” But that is crap! We face the same headaches and heartaches and get the same benefits! As the wife of a SFC, I have had the pleasure to work with younger spouses and help them adjust to military life. I also served as our CO FRG leader. Just Wednesday night, we had a Hail/Farewell dinner that was attended by our BN command. I spent much of the night speaking with the LT Col and SGM. While I never interrupted or such, I certainly did not wait for them to speak to me! Nor did any other spouses! That is just insane! Yes, the deserve respect, they EARNED it! I have learned to carefully select my battles with command if I feel there is a serious issue. I have also learned the proper way to address it, so that my husband does not face repercussions from my actions. I applaud this soldier’s command for doing damage control. I can only hope they offer an experienced spouse to help this young military wife learn what is actual protocol and what is just ideas someone has put in her head. My husband was appalled as I read the blog to him, and had one statement, he said it sounds like she married an older soldier who is putting many of these ideas in her head and enjoys the control. maybe he is right….
Yes reread, I am army wife of 12 years and still going strong in ths crazy life we call the military soldier no thank you for not reading the statement completely. I have done back to back deployments have two children and one on the way. We are cureently on recruiting duty. – have sacrificed just as you have as a spouse. Again you are entitled to your opion and thoughts, as I am and as she is. I am just saying we should band together and fight for more important issues.
Directed toward Desira
I am a blogger and a milspouse, and I wrote a post to share my feelings on the situation. what you say here rings so true with me too. http://legosandjets.blogspot.com/2012/02/stirring-pot-reaction.html
Laura, your blog is EXACTLY my feelings. Great post.
And…….. **POOF** the whole blog is gone! Looks like somebody got herself in a bit over her head! Karma baby, Karma!
BLOG is gone.
I think that you guys above talking about her being a “newbie Army wife” are right on. It is my opinion that her rant was the result of listening to her husband’s frustration about being mistaken for a National Guard soldier, who HE believes are not real soldiers.
Her comments were terrible, but I am more angry at him, a Senior NCO, who obviously gave her all the words to type from his ranting.
I have to say that as an Air Guard wife we absolutely HATE the DEGRADING term “Weekend Warriors”. My husband is an O-3 in the Air National Guard and when he leaves for TDY’s or deployments or what have you that he is called to do… we have hardly any support. Because we dont live close to a base we have our friends that are non-military that dont understand the pressures of a military family… whether he is gone for a weekend or gone for months. We try and connect with the other spouses in the unit but since everyone comes from different areas it is hard at times. We at times feel like the “red-headed step child” to the other spouses that are active duty… so i appreciate you sticking up for us Guard wives =)
“First of all the majority of us (or at least the spouses I know) rarely if ever come in contact with our husband’s First Sgt. Secondly since when do I have to speak only when spoken to ?”
I have been with my BF for 18 months and have met face to face with his First Sgt. and I did talked to him like he was a person. But then it was at the family game day so maybe it was the setting, hard to be all formal when everyone has on shorts and are tossing eggs at eachother :)
Her post should be listed in a post called “What an Army Wife should not do” for all of us newbeeies to read.
Alright, I know I shouldn’t be commenting on this since I’m Navy, not Army, and Active Duty on top of that. I work at a reservist squadron as a maintainer. And to be honest, sometimes we look at our Selres and just shake our heads. There’s been times when me, an E-nothing has had to supervise and direct e5’s and e6’s. It was pretty funny actually. I had them swabbing. Yeah, I swabbed the ladderwell and they swabbed the pway, since they were gracious enough to put pride aside and do Airman work simply because a) I work there full time/knew what needed to be done and b) many hands make for light work. Theres been times when I had to train folks who have been in years, for example right now I’m filling a cook’s billet. I’m an electrician, but I trained cooks who’ve been in a minute how to do thier job. Its wierd, I know. Let’s be honest, Selres don’t always know or get rusty when it comes down to mundane day to day things since they don’t do it every single day. Somethings that are second nature to us are not quite to them sometimes. I know it sounds bad that I’m being devils advocate, but hear me out. Yeah it sucks that when drill weekend comes around I have to work 7 days a week and possibly 12 hour shifts, or even come in on my day off. But I LOVE my Selres Shipmates just as much as my AD Shipmates. We’re all Sailors. And if someone were to talk smack about one of my Shipmates I’d open up a can of whoopin so fast I’d break the can opener. My Mentor, he’s an Airframer. Selres who did years of AD and is trying to go back to AD. He’s at work everyday bustin his hump, getting pulled in a hundred different directions at once, but he still makes the time to come check on me. He’ll even prank me. He will bother me to make sure I’m ok, he’ll take me out to the jet and teach me his job when I ask, he bends over backwards because he knows I’m a hard charger just like him. He may be a Selres, but he works just as hard, if not harder than any AD Sailor I know. Or my buddy from A School. We were in Performing Units together, so you know he was squared away. He volunteered to get cross assigned to our unit which is across a continent from his NOSC to deploy to the Sandbox with us. He worked two weeks after coming home from deployment without pay until his AT orders got approved. Then he worked two more, since he had been granted 2 week AD orders. He has quals out the wazoo and got promoted by our skipper at the christmas party. He will make Chief in six years. I just know it. I want to be like them when I grow up aka make Petty Officer. So long story short, your Shipmates are Family. Sometimes you facepalm, sometimes you just want to smack them, but you always Love them. It don’t matter if they Selres or AD they loved all the same. Just my two cents. I apologize for any misspellings or grammatical or even syntax errors. I’m a night check person, but I worked double shifts today on 4 hours of sleep. Yes, I was required to only work Day Check today, but I worked night check to make sure my Shipmates didn’t go hungry. Also, I get the same days off night check gets by staying on schedule. So its win win for everyone.
Also, I stay anonymous since its easier to maintain OPSEC that way. I do not speak on Behalf of the Navy. Im just a random nameless faceless worker ant voicing her little opinion.
I think the whole article should have been posted rather than bits and pieces. You made her sound like a bad person when in fact if you read the whole article it is not all what she was made out to be. I think us military wives need to stop bashing each other and other branches. Good Lord!
Kim I posted the link to the article and actually she removed the bad pieces, you probably saw it after she redid it. I read the article long before she removed half of her entire blog. The whole article in it’s entirety is posted here in the comments.
All I can say is tell that to the 477 National Guard Men and Women who have given their LIFE in OIF/OEF since the war began. Tell that to them and their friends and family. I would like to see her stand up and tell them that. This woman, new or not – should freaking no better. That’s just common sense, and her husband – he doesn’t deserve to wear the uniform. If he is supporting THAT statement made by a complete moron, he needs to take the uniform off and walk away. I’m sorry but that’s how I feel, he’s a disgrace to the uniform and she will never make friends when they PCS or end up at a real post because once people find out who she is, and the comments she made – they will not tolerate her. I know I wouldn’t, not with that mentality.. She’d throw her HUSBANDS rank and service in my face just once and and I’d put her right in her spot.
ugh. thats ridiculous. my husband has been in the NG for 6 years, and is currently in Kuwait alongside men and women who joined active duty. When they are deployed, there is no difference. They are Active Duty currently. NG soldiers/wives have to go through the same things as a non NG soldier/wives. grrr!
The unit has taken down the apology.
Wow then again I am not shocked. I am guessing some of the comments left beneath it on FB were getting out of hand.
I have been an Army wife for 26 years, my husband is now in the ARMY National Guard and is going on 31 years of Army service. My husband works for the DoD, so everyday is an ARMY adventure. I respect my husband and all he has done for our country, and truely respect all our Men and Women soldiers of our services, young, old, full time, part time what’s it matter, they serve our country in some capacity. I feel very sorry for the women who started this e-mail turmoil about our brave soldiers. Maybe she needs to get involved in the USO.
This lady needs to realize solidiers, no matter what branch place themselves in the line of fire for what they do. No one branch is less than other in the war zone, no one injury or mental issue is less than another just because they are in different branches.
Spouses (men and women) of these soldiers needs to all stick together no matter the rank. We are to be address as us not the rank our soliders wear on their sleeves, all our struggles are simliar.
As a wife of a Major, I do not see those spouse of lower ranking soliders any less then i see higher ranking officers’ spouse. We all have our own issues, and we were all once a spouse of a lower rank. I respect those who live in a lower pay grade because the military really dont make wealthy soliders, paying all the bills and putting food on the table can be alot of pressure for a spouse. Rank does not make the spouse, it is the actions of the spouse that should be used to comand respect. By the time my husband is able to leave the service we will be in the upper level officer ranks, but I know I will not expect other spouses to see me any different. I did not earn his rank, I would have just surrived his career. All spouse are the backbones of the military as a whole. All spouses of all branches including Gaurdsmen, are part of the same elite force, the military family force. Our soliders’ lives in battle all depend on each other and the jobs each perform, it dose not make a difference what branch, in battle an injury and truama is a just the same.
I didn’t read every comment to the blog, but what I did read only made me realize that a lot of military spouses don’t connect to talk to each other. I just ets’d, married my Soldier, now doing the Army Spouse role. Commenting about whether a Soldier is of any branch of service or active duty, reserve, guard. There isn’t a difference of the sacrifices made by any. There isn’t a difference in the sacrifices made by the families left behind during deployments. Now if that young lady had mentor ship kinda like Soldiers do coming up in the ranks, there may have been more tact used in the original blog. Of course there would not have been such a controversy if she spoke only for her husband and herself and not the whole active duty community. I was active duty for 12 years my husband now 17 years.
I do not speak only when spoken to, my opinion to my husband does count, but I make it very clear not to tell him how to do his job or to speak in his stead on his military position or opinion on subjects, unless it is dealing with our own family. My job is to ensure that families in our unit have the knowledge to obtain and maintain the utmost positive family environment for spouse, children, and their Soldier.
Back to the subject of the blog. She may be a newly recruited…lol…spouse (military humor)…and because of the backlash she has probably gotten, it will do one of two things for her. 1) make her realize that every last Soldier no matter what Armed Force all make the same sacrifices, bleed red, and no matter who they fight along side, fight as volunteers to protect Freedom, Family, and Our way of life. Or 2) not realize it and blog again, and people there’s nothing we can do about that.
I apologize comment is so long.
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