Every marriage needs to be and stay strong, and create a firm bond. But when it comes to military marriage, a lot of couples may face many challenges such as – finances, PCSing, separations (due to the military), and raising children on our own.
But let me tell you that you are not alone. No marriage is “perfect” and we all have had struggles. Sometimes we ought to sacrifice time apart for the good of our nation and support towards our spouse. Most importantly, we need to know that nobody can make our marriages work, except us and our spouses together.
Here are some ideas on doing just that:
There is nothing more important than to know how to communicate with our spouse. We all communicate in various forms: verbal, non-verbal, written, and visual. But our homework here is to figure out in which one we fall into. Talk about how you feel, and explain what makes you happy, sad, excited, etc. Nothing, but a positive outcome could result when we can ask our spouse if there is something that we can personally work on to make the marriage better. When something is bothering us we need to take a step back and confront the situation in a respectful manner. Remember that communication is the key to success.
Do Something Special for Each Other
Many of spouses may be deployed, out in the field training, working long hours and/or working on the weekend. Doing little and simple things for our spouse can make a positive impact. We need to understand that sometimes some it may be complicated do to our own schedules. But, one priceless idea is to post a small note saying, “I love you. Have a great day!” on their wallets, door, car, etc. We need to remind our loved one that we are here to love and support them on whatever they do. Especially, when you know it will be a long and productive day.
No Electronics Allowed
We all are fascinated with what technology has to offer, and how useful it is. But, sometimes we forget how it may interfere in our marriages. Sitting down scrolling through Facebook while sitting next to your spouse, doesn’t allow openness to topic and undivided attention. So we need to set it aside and do fun things, like: playing board games, going for a walk, talk about how our day went, etc.
Set up a Date
Sometimes we may get so busy with our personal lives that we sometimes forget about our marriage. Make time once or twice a month to rekindle and relive moments with your spouse. What about our children? Ask a friend or a sitter if they would be available to watch your child for a couple of hours in exchange for some extra cash.
Alé is a Latina Army Wife from Texas, who currently Pcs’ed to Fort Bragg, NC from Germany. She is mommy of 3 yr old, Sophia and wife to, Troy. She earned a college degree in TV and Radio Broadcasting/Journalism. While and after earning
her degree, she had the opportunity to work at: Radio stations, TV stations, an elementary school and CDC. Given these opportunities it has allowed her to explore, learn different cultures and backgrounds. In her spare time, she enjoys: reading, dancing, traveling, watching movies, homeschooling Sophia (before she starts PREK), and spending quality time with Troy.
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