Do you have to make new friends at your new home …No!

Should you make friends at your new duty station….My answer is YES!

I will be the first to admit that I don’t like having too many friends. It is not a military thing, it is just how I have always been. At the same time I am the coolest person and don’t mind being friends (associates) with people just as long as their halfway normal and not “drama queens”.

Unfortunately in the military life sometimes we have to step out of our normal everyday realm and put ourselves out there. With the constant moves , and deployments it is extremely important to make a friend or two who lives where you live and that you can talk to when needed.

During my husband’s last deployment I always was worried about what if I were to pass out in this house and no one knows, or who would watch my kids in an emergency. Besides emergencies I thought about less worse things such as being in my house for 15 months alone in another state and not knowing a soul, no matter how much of a loner you are the thought of not knowing a single sole is pretty depressing.

So I am here to tell you yes their is literally a way to make friends at your next duty station before you get there. When I arrived in Hawaii I had already made some great friends…who gave me time to get settled and then a chance to get to know them more.

Ok ok I know your like well damn it tell us how already *smile*

1. Visit the sites listed below. Each of these sites has a separate message board community for each Army post.
*Married To The Army
*Military SOS

2. Visit Meetup and see if their is a Military Wives meetup group in your area, or a local group which meets one of your interest. This could include scrapbooking, playgroups etc.

3. When I PCS’ed here to Hawaii I searched out military wives groups on Myspace and I even used the search feature to find spouses in this area and then sent them messages privately.

4. Visit your Army post ACS building and get a list of different spouse groups available on and offpost. PWOC is just an example of one of the different programs on bases worldwide available to spouses. In this case PWOC is a women’s ministry on military installations. If that isn’t your cup of tea check out the Enlisted Spouses Club on your base.

Word of advice don’t be persuaded by other views of groups such as Spouses clubs. Everyone has varying opinions and you don’t want to lose out on a potential great support system just because of one person’s opinion.

Moral of the story make a friend …trust me you will definitely need one!

Hooah & Smooches




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Krystel is the mom of two and an Army Wife. In addition to Army Wife 101 she is the Co-Founder of a digital media agency that connects brands with the military market. She has appeared on MSNBC ,FOX LA and formerly was a weekly contributor to HLN's "Raising America". She has written for various outlets including Sheknows and Lifetime and is a big fan of cupcakes and french fries.

1 Comment on Do I Need To Make Friends & How Do I at My Duty Station?

  1. I saw that this is an old post, however I just stumbled across it. My husband is currently in BCT and before he left we often joked about how I will actually need to make friends now. I’m fine being acquaintances with people but I’ve never really been good at maintaining a close friendship because most of the time it revolves around drama. This post was really helpful in giving me the idea of many meeting in groups with common interests! Thanks.

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