Valentine’s Day is right around the corner. Many of us love to celebrate it, while some of us choose to ignore it. For those of us with a deployed husband, you may feel like forgetting it all together or even sad. What’s a girl to do in such a predicament? Well, it all depends on how you’re feeling but I have a few ideas below to help you make it through!


Make It a Girl’s Night Out!

If you would rather be out enjoying some time with friends rather than sitting at home thinking about how you miss your husband on Valentine’s Day, get a few of your girlfriends together and go do something. You don’t have to go a restaurant and watch all the lovey couples if that might ruin your night. Rather, try going somewhere low key for dinner and maybe make an appointment for a manicure or something to pamper yourself. If you are OK with the restaurant scene and can brave it, then make reservations and have a great evening with your friends!

Stay Home and Pretend Valentine’s Day Doesn’t Exist

Sometimes we all feel like doing this and if this is how you feel, I understand. Some of us do better by chilling out alone. Try watching a funny movie, a scary movie, or binge watch your favorite TV show – you get the idea. You can make dinner at home, order take out or delivery. The next day will be a brand new day and Valentine’s Day is over and you didn’t have to confront it!

Skype with Your Husband

If you are able to Skype with your husband on Valentine’s Day great, then by all means, Skype with him. Try not to dwell on the fact that you’re apart (yes, I know it sucks) and just be happy to see his face and hear his voice. You could even take it up a notch and buy lingerie you plan to wear when he returns home and tell him about it. You might even be able to show it to him. No, you don’t have to actually wear it while Skyping but you could hold it up to show him. Imagination is a very powerful thing and your husband will be thrilled at the thought of seeing his beautiful wife wearing it.

Host a Gathering at Your House

Have your friends that are in the same situation come over and if they have children, allow them to bring their kids. This can actually be a Valentine’s Day party or an Anti-Valentine’s Day party – you choose. You will be surrounded by your friends and away from the craziness of Valentine’s Day. Make dinner or make it a potluck. It doesn’t really matter what you do as long as you’re having fun.  And have someone bring some chocolate! Chocolate is good year round, not just on Valentine’s Day! Just be sure it isn’t out of a heart shaped box.

Plan Next Year’s Valentine’s Day or a Romantic Getaway

There is no time like the present to start planning for next year! Think of it as making up for lost time and plan a nice Valentine’s Day getaway for next year or plan a romantic weekend for you and your husband once he returns home. Thinking about the future is fun and with all of the options out there, you can easily burn a day or two planning a getaway.

Regardless of what you do on Valentine’s Day, try to find some enjoyment and if you want to eat a whole box of chocolates, that’s fine too!

angeliqueloftAngelique is a proud Army wife and happily married to her husband, Ray. After being PCS’ed from one side of the country to the other, Ft. Bragg, NC, is currently home. She has a degree in Counseling and a career background in Corporate Human Resources. She is an advocate for animal rights and enjoys supporting military and environmental causes. She is an accomplished flute player of 23 years and in her spare time she enjoys crafting, decorating, genealogy, travelling, watching horrible B rated movies, and is obsessed with anything pertaining to Disney. She and Ray are the proud pet parents of two dogs, Maddie and Ringo.



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Krystel is the mom of two and an Army Wife. In addition to Army Wife 101 she is the Co-Founder of a digital media agency that connects brands with the military market. She has appeared on MSNBC ,FOX LA and formerly was a weekly contributor to HLN's "Raising America". She has written for various outlets including Sheknows and Lifetime and is a big fan of cupcakes and french fries.

4 Comments on 5 Ways For Military Spouses To Survive Valentine’s Day During A Deployment

  1. This is too good! I am very active on Facebook with all the Milso pages and all those depressing valentines day posts have just been flooding in!
    I love how you have taken negative outlook on the topic and turned it around to something potentially positive for the couple.
    I am very fortunate to have my soldier for our first valentines day however I know others aren’t that lucky.
    I will definitely post this link to my community pages so those who cant be with their SO might not have such a bad valentines day.

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