As the holidays approach I am rejoicing in the fact that my dear hubby is home, and we can be like a normal family and spend the holidays together. On the other hand another part of me is constantly thinking about the military spouses who have to spend the holidays alone this year because their loved one is deployed.
I decided to write this post because I wanted those of you who will be without your spouse on these upcoming holidays to know that you are not alone. I wanted to share some things you can do to make “a blah” holiday better. Now if you live on post and are going home to be with family for the holidays then that is great, and chances are the information below won’t really apply to you. If your spouse is deployed and you staying on post for the holidays then continue reading.
Cook It Out With A Friend
1. If you are actually looking to be social on Thanksgiving or Christmas then grab that one friend whose spouse is also deployed , plan a small menu and each cook a few dishes. Let the kids play and enjoy hanging with someone else also in the same situation.
Cook It Out Anyway With the Kids Or Even By Yourself
2. If you are the homebody like me make it a family night for you and the kids or if you child free–yourself. You might not feel like cooking, but that doesn’t mean you can’t have a hearty dinner. Venture on over to your local commissary and place an order for a Thanksgiving meal. It usually includes a turkey with all the trimmings, two to three dishes and a dessert. Other fun places to eat out on the holidays are places like Golden Coral.
It’s Movie Time
3. I am a Christmas fanatic, so the minute Thanksgiving comes I know many of my favorite holiday movies are scheduled to come on that night. Make it a family night with just you and the kids curled up in the bed or on the couch together and let them get their first taste of “Home Alone”.
I See You
4. On Christmas morning if at all possible I have managed to get hubby on webcam (while he was deployed) and he was able to partake in watching the kids open their presents.
Dinner And The Movies
5. If all else fails, take the kids out to eat at a restaurant and then head to the movies. I love the movies on Thanksgiving and Christmas.
One Last Cry or Laugh
6. Lastly, once the kids are down for the night, take some “YOU” time! This means finding that chick flick that will make you ball your eyes out because trust me a good cry is in order on the holidays alone or watch National Lampoons Christmas Vacation…guaranteed to crack you up.
I know many of these tips are common, but they are all tried and trusted by me or someone I know. Holidays alone suck! The key is to make the best of it, and also realizing the day doesn’t have to be perfect.
Have you ever been alone during a deployment? Share your tips on how you coped in the comments section below.
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