Deployments and TDY’s are NEVER easy, but there are things you can do to make them feel like less of a burden.  I am by no means an expert, but I have experienced numerous TDY’s and deployments, and am confident that the advice I have to offer can and will help you breeze through those difficult and often long separations.

Get Into A Routine:
I was raised with no routine or schedule, which meant that life was always chaotic.  When I had children I suddenly realized the wisdom in having a more orderly routine, but it wasn’t until we experienced our first deployment that I understood the necessity in it as well.

Those first couple of months were HARD, to say the least!  There was never enough time in the day, my home was quite messy, the baby was screaming her head off all the time, and I was breaking under the weight of all the stress.

Finally, I dug my heals in and educated myself on schedules and routines.  My favorite guide to time management you can find free at Money Saving Mom.

If you don’t have children then you will be way ahead of the game if you learn how to get into a routine NOW so you’re well prepared when you do have kids.

Keep Your Attitude In Check:
I struggled for many years to do exactly this.  My attitude consisted of complaining, gossiping, and down right disdain for life.  Then one day, when I was particularly depressed, I suddenly had a revelation: my attitude was doing nothing but making me feel worse!

From that point on I forced myself to get into the habit of keeping my attitude in check and finding the good in all things regardless of how crappy the circumstances.  It was hard at first, but soon after it became much easier until I didn‘t even have to think of it anymore, even in the worst of circumstances.

Get Out And Socialize!
This may go without saying, but it’s worth a mention: DON’T be a hermit!  Get out, get some fresh air, take some time away from the kids (if you have any), and be social!

I was not social when I first became an army wife, and I suffered as a result of it.  I was lonely, depressed, and stressed out ALL THE TIME!  Living the military life successfully is a team effort.  Don’t do it alone!

This is a guest post by Kaui Eiklor, Army Wife and Lead blogger at Thrifty Military Mommy.  My focus is to support our heroes, help their families, and make the world better spenders and savers.  All the advice I offer is totally free of charge.



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Krystel is the mom of two and an Army Wife. In addition to Army Wife 101 she is the Co-Founder of a digital media agency that connects brands with the military market. She has appeared on MSNBC ,FOX LA and formerly was a weekly contributor to HLN's "Raising America". She has written for various outlets including Sheknows and Lifetime and is a big fan of cupcakes and french fries.

7 Comments on How To Make Life Easier During Deployments And TDY’s

  1. I would also add, go back to school, volunteer, or get involved in a hobby you like. These help the time go by and your not sitting around being depressed and worrying about the deployment.

    • I totally forgot about this one! You’re so right, although I guess we could say that this is part of being social. Volunteering is even more of a bonus since it gets your eyes off of your “crappy” situation and onto what others have to suffer through.

      I volunteered for a second hand store called Shared Blessings during my husband’s first deployment. There were quite a few people that came into the organization on a regular basis who had nothing. It sure did make me think, “What am I complaining about!”

      Thanks for the tip!

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