On Sunday night’s episode of Army Wives Lt. Col Joan Burton found out she had been accepted to a special school there by helping her to become a General in the Army.
Unfortunately Roland did not receive this information well and warned Joan that if she accepted the offer to go to this school, he would divorce her. Of course the #ArmyWives hashtag blew up.
Here’s what some folks had to say:
Will Joan give up her career for her husband? John Hopkins is a once and a lifetime experience and so is getting a star #ArmyWives
— Joanie™ (@Joanie_Vinson) May 7, 2013
And holy crap! I NEVER thought I’d see Roland make Joan choose between the family and the army. #ArmyWives — Sharon Alman (@ChainGangGirl88) May 7, 2013
Roland right to give she an ultimatum #armywives — ♥̸̨Süßkartoffel ♥̸̨ (@dubadd_babii) May 7, 2013
Just finished watching last night’s #armywives. Poor Roland. Him was throwin’ a wittow tantrum!
— Angela Jeter (@JustGrayMomma) May 7, 2013
@wendydofficial #joanshouldhavesaid Roland, you’re right it’s your turn to shine.yes I love the Army but I love you & kids more. #armywives
— Alison M Bennett (@AlisonBennett85) May 7, 2013
#ArmyWives Roland has made a lot of sacrifices for Joan Hoping that everything with the Burton’s works out!! Would hate to see them leave
— Kelly Cruz ❤ (@KellyCr93019667) May 6, 2013
I would be lying if I said I didn’t understand Roland’s frustrations. I too have followed my husband around the majority of his military career. I traveled to places I couldn’t stand living and passed on huge work related opportunities because a deployment made it impossible for me to travel as needed.
When we came back to the mainland he left Active Duty Army (2 years later) only to join the National Guard and take on a career as an over the road truck driver. I understood why he did it but the truth is I was a little resentful of the fact that his work schedule didn’t allow me to pursue my career goals. We have since worked on the scheduling of things but it still can be an issue when something big comes up that I know is huge for my career.
Sunday’s episode posed the question: how long is a spouse supposed to wait before they pursue goals important to them?
The other question is should a spouse who has sacrificed furthering their career pass up a large opportunity so that the service member can advance in their career?
I only posted a few of the tweets I saw but surprisingly many viewers thought that Roland was being to harsh on Joan. I too thought the word divorce was harsh to throw at her but, Roland is a doctor who (fictionally) spent alot of time to train and study for his profession. I could unfortunately see how after years of putting your aspirations on hold it could take a toll, especially if that person has promised to retire so you could have your chance. You don’t necessarily want the other person to pass on a great opportunity but you often wonder “when is it my turn”?
Has your spouse’s military career prevented you from taking a big career opportunity of some sort or stopped you from pursuing a goal of some sort?
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