Doesn’t mean your child can run free! I bet your saying geeze “What is she rambling about now”?
Yesterday while driving home from dinner, my husband and I saw a woman a few streets from our house on the corner standing outside her car crying. Automatically I began to feel bad, because I assumed that her husband was deployed and that her car had broken down, and that she had just had a really screwed up day. We were going to stop but I assumed because she was on the phone that she had called for help and someone would be there to assist her soon. ( I assume alot don’t I?)
When we got home my friend called and alerted me to the fact that one of our neighbor’s kids was missing …a 5 year old to be exact. When I finally thought about it , I realized that’s why the woman I had saw was crying . Did I feel bad for the child…HELL YES! Did I feel bad for the mom …MMM No!!!
You see for the last year and a half I have lived here and they have lived near me , and except for the time this family was away, never has there not been a time I didn’t see this child outside unsupervised. Several times I’ve seen the kid outside in their undergarments. I mean this kid goes farther on their scooter at five years old then I was allowed to at twelve. One time the little one came to my door and gave my husband a flower. My mom has visited two summers in a row and loves to sit on my front porch and drink her coffee and has witnessed the child in question outside early in the morning, coming and going as they please. When she calls she always ask if that child is still running free around the neighborhood.
So I am assuming I have a few people saying” What’s wrong with the kid being outside playing?”
Well first off this kid is 5! Enough said, but for the sake of making my point I’ll go on.
Secondly either the parent is just in a fog or is one of the “I live onpost so nothing can happen types”. These are the kind of spouses who assume because we live onpost , that sick pervs don’t roam around ,that cars don’t speed and that nothing bad has ever happened onpost. What they feel to realize is that in addition to spouses and dependents we also have several extended family members who reside onpost. I am sure you have seen that house that has way more then the allotted number of people in it , or that adult that you know isn’t in the Army and your instincts tell you they aren’t a spouse neither. I recently checked our sex offender database and was shocked to learn a few lived onpost.
So I say all that to say this…Do not get so comfortable living onpost that you become unaware of the dangerous realities that still exist. Living onpost tends to cause a few people to have a false sense of security. Feel free to call me overprotective, but my six year old is barely allowed on the front porch if I am not sitting right there, and my eleven year old is allowed to play outside within reason. This is not an attack on one’s parenting style, but it is a prime example of what I am always saying. Some people let their kids run free and then freak out and put on an Academy Award winning performance when something happens. For the record I am not talking about the unfortunate incidents that happen to parents who keep an eye on their kids, I am talking about the parents who let their three year old run around the street with no one to keep an eye on them on a constant basis and then act shocked when something happens.
The funny thing is prior to them finding the kid , my neighbor said to me “Where do you think so and so is?” I said I doubt anything bad has happened, so and so is probably is in someone’s backyard playing or scribbling someone’s front porch up in chalk .
Was I right…Yup!
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